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The moments of your celebration, and who sees them

A moment is one part of the celebration with its own day, time, place, and audience: “Everyone” or “By invitation”. How to choose them and who sees what.

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  1. Choosing your moments
  2. Who sees a moment?
  3. Inviting a household to certain moments
  4. What each person sees
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This article touches on Jewish practice. It sticks to widely shared reference points and has not yet been reviewed by a rabbi: if in doubt, ask yours.

A celebration is not a single appointment: a wedding has a chuppah, a reception, sometimes a henna or a Shabbat Chatan. In Tov, each of these is a moment, with its own day, time, place, and audience. That is what lets you invite everyone to the ceremony and only some households to the meal.

Choosing your moments

At the “Your moments” step of “Prepare” (or on the “The program” screen of the creation flow), Tov suggests moments based on the celebration. One tap adds one; “Another moment” lets you create a custom one. A moment’s title is written in the language of the invitation.

  • Wedding: chuppah, reception, civil ceremony, henna, Shabbat Chatan, Sheva Brachot.
  • Bar mitzvah: Shabbat bar mitzvah, putting on tefillin, kiddush, party.
  • Bat mitzvah: ceremony, Torah reading, kiddush, party.
  • Brit milah: brit milah, seudah.
  • Engagement: engagement party, dinner. Birthday: the party, family meal. Shabbat Chatan: the groom’s Torah reading, kiddush, Shabbat meal.
  • Pidyon haben, brit bat, and “other celebration”: no suggestions, only “Another moment”.

Moments held on another day (henna, civil ceremony, Shabbat Chatan, Sheva Brachot, putting on tefillin) are suggested without a date: it is up to you to choose it, and Tov never makes one up. The invitation shows the moments in chronological order.

Who sees a moment?

Every moment has an audience: “Everyone” or “By invitation”.

  • “Everyone”: visible to anyone who has the invitation link.
  • “By invitation”: visible only to the households you invite to that moment (a meal, a reception with limited seating).

Tov sets a default audience: “Everyone” for ceremonies (chuppah, Torah reading, kiddush, brit, ceremony, civil ceremony) and “By invitation” for meals and parties (reception, party, seudah, henna, Sheva Brachot). You can change it moment by moment.

Inviting a household to certain moments

When you add a household, every moment is checked by default under “Invited to”: uncheck the ones it is not invited to. Later, “Invited to”, in the household’s record, lets you change that. To check the result: “View as this household”.

Tip

A household that is not invited to any moment in particular sees all the “Everyone” moments, just as with the general link.

What each person sees

  • A household with its personal link: exactly the moments you invited it to. A moment that does not concern it is not sent to its browser.
  • A person with the general link: the “Everyone” moments.
  • If all your moments are “By invitation”, the general link shows only the title, the date, and the sentence “This invitation is personal — ask the family for your link.”, with no form and no location.
Culture

Tov offers a starting setting, not a rule: depending on the family and the community, a Shabbat meal, a henna, or a Sheva Brachot may be open to all or limited to close family and friends. You decide.

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